o yeah, we can manufacture it in our heads.
I don’t mean to dictate the terms where you have to be happy but i hope at the end of this, some of the most obvious details we miss out in life are .. well, made obvious.
So the whole deal is in respect to a certain part of our brain which we didn’t have a few evolutionary seconds ago( 2 million years).
Well,apparently this lump behind our eyes is kinda like a simulator for our thoughts and THAT separates us from all other forms of life on our planet and has made us inept in a million things including language,fine arts, etc.
So this projector in our heads right .. It plays out scenarios for us.
We don’t do justice when we say we “wish” for something , we actually play out hour long scenarios where we’re actually wearing that fancy piece of jewellery or in bed with the latest poster slut of pop.
Anyway, that portion of our brain is what most of the quotes and sayings and teaching and buddha talk about when they say we gotta dash all illusions in our mind ..and with good reason.
Here is a a brilliant example i refer to here from Dan Gilbert’s speech in TED
Pete Best, who was the original drummer for the Beatles, until they, you know, sent him out on an errand and snuck away and picked up Ringo on a tour. Well, in 1994, when Pete Best was interviewed — yes, he’s still a drummer; yes, he’s a studio musician — he had this to say: “I’m happier than I would have been with the Beatles.”
Okay. There’s something important to be learned from these people, and it is the secret of happiness. Here it is, finally to be revealed. First: accrue wealth, power, and prestige, then lose it. (Laughter) Second: spend as much of your life in prison as you possibly can. (Laughter) Third: make somebody else really, really rich. (Laughter) And finally: never ever join the Beatles. (Laughter)
OK. Now I, like Ze Frank, can predict your next thought, which is, “Yeah, right.” Because when people synthesize happiness, as these gentlemen seem to have done, we all smile at them, but we kind of roll our eyes and say, “Yeah right, you never really wanted the job.” “Oh yeah, right. You really didn’t have that much in common with her, and you figured that out just about the time she threw the engagement ring in your face.”
We smirk because we believe that synthetic happiness is not of the same quality as what we might call “natural happiness.” What are these terms? Natural happiness is what we get when we get what we wanted, and synthetic happiness is what we make when we don’t get what we wanted. And in our society, we have a strong belief that synthetic happiness is of an inferior kind. Why do we have that belief? Well, it’s very simple. What kind of economic engine would keep churning if we believed that not getting what we want could make us just as happy as getting it?
Not to be unkind to my blogger friends here..to be honest , most of our views are from ranting and raving in anger at the injustices of the system and the blatant corruption and dumbfuckery goin on (mine included) whereas
fun fact, did you know that Indians are among the happiest people in the world ?
It seems we have a ” Psychological Immune system” which kicks in and compensates for us whenever we get screwed over and messed up with our lives.The psychological immune system works best when we are totally stuck, when we are trapped. Think about it for a second.
How many instances can you quote from your own living memory when you felt gratified whenever you fell into some kind of crisis.
Here , we have a paradox for us to consider.
We can never be happy chasing after all those things in life which are flashy and desirable, and in all probability, never will get.
Yet, society teaches us to lust after the ‘bigger’ things in life, to get More stuff…for what ?
to be happy ?..
But here, it seems that the real way to be happy is to get screwed over, lose everything and then to gain a unique perspective on things so we can finally achieve real happiness.
Personally, I would vouch for this, I never really had the “right place in life” feeling ..far from it…and at the end of all this time, there’s some kinda clarity in thought. I’m sure some of you would catch the point by now, oh yeah.
When you feel “things just cant get any worse” , that’s when you feel better.
I would dedicate this whole blog completely to Dan Gilbert, who’s talk i’ve just chewed out here…and i would finish this with another excerpt from his speech which does total justice.
“In more turgid prose, but closer to the truth, was the father of modern capitalism, Adam Smith, and he said this. This is worth contemplating: “The great source of both the misery and disorders of human life seems to arise from overrating the difference between one permanent situation and another … Some of these situations may, no doubt, deserve to be preferred to others, but none of them can deserve to be pursued with that passionate ardor which drives us to violate the rules either of prudence or of justice, or to corrupt the future tranquility of our minds, either by shame from the remembrance of our own folly, or by remorse for the horror of our own injustice.” In other words: yes, some things are better than others.
We should have preferences that lead us into one future over another. But when those preferences drive us too hard and too fast because we have overrated the difference between these futures, we are at risk. When our ambition is bounded, it leads us to work joyfully. When our ambition is unbounded, it leads us to lie, to cheat, to steal, to hurt others, to sacrifice things of real value. When our fears are bounded, we’re prudent; we’re cautious; we’re thoughtful. When our fears are unbounded and overblown, we’re reckless, and we’re cowardly.
The lesson I want to leave you with from these data is that our longings and our worries are both to some degree overblown, because we have within us the capacity to manufacture the very commodity we are constantly chasing when we choose experience.
Thank You. “
Follow this link for the radio talk and the TED talk where he talks about ‘What makes us happy ? ‘